Ensaios sobre a Cegueira com que partimos para um Mundo fora de Portugal
Coming from a southern European country I am used to the fact that ambitious women are still foreseen as awkward women. How many times did I hear the questions "When are you getting married? When do you want to have kids? Are you waiting to have grey hairs? Your parents are ready to be grand-parents..." Or how many of these south European men still think that you have to cook and take care of the house because you are the woman? Unfortunately it is not only men from my parents'generation but also the one of our genration (at least the ones who are 30 something now...)
Then I went up north, countries of equal opurtunities...now I have to pay my dinner by myself but still hear when I talk about my projects "Wow what an ambitious woman!" So what now?!?!?! How do you expect me to pay the dinner? And why are these guys so scared of ambitious women? Scared that there will be nobody at home to take care of the kids when they are themselves "entrepeneurs"?
I still prefer the southern countries at least you still get invitations!
Definitely the femminist revolution didn't go through all the men's minds...and seems that is not even clear in the northern countries (except for the bills!) Or am I just in the wrong generation...to old to have someone paying dinner for me and to old to be accepted as an ambitious woman?
mi hanno detto una volta: "hai troppe ambizioni!"... eranno davvero sconvolti... e sai dove? qui, in belgio!!! non credo sia proprio la terra dove siamo tutti uguali! comunque nei giorni di oggi vedo che fa ancora troppo casino in certe menti l'essere una donna in carriera... che poi, che carriera!
penso comunque che cambia quando meno l'aspetti...
ho 26 anni... le domande tipo "quando ti sposi" o "quando vengono i figli" vengono piu dalle amiche che sono ansiose per diventare zie!!!!
tra 4 anni ne parliamo ancora!
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Por acaso concordo contigo Princess,
A imagem da mulher desprotegida que precisa que cuidem dela, ainda é a mais preferida pelos rapazes.
Nao é que as mulheres ambiciosas nao precisem que cuidem delas, mas à partida dao um ar muito independente… de faço e aconteço sem precisar de ninguém.
É a necessidade do domínio do homem. Mesmo que inconsciente, está lá…
Mas há esperança! Nao lhes contes os teus planos todos… pode ser que resulte, e depois quando já tiverem no papo começas a mostrar as tuas ambiçoes.
Cara bicuka ecco perche non chiedo mai alle mie amiche quando avranno figli...so che puo annoiarle come mi annoia a me o a volte che ne sappiano che non riescono ad averne? Quindi meglio che questa domanda non si faccia...
Le ambizioni femminili penso che vanno in parallelo con le pari opportunita uomo/donna che per ora penso proprio che non esistono! A volte mi scoraggio ma penso che dobbiamo continuare a lottare anche se ci prendono per femministe post rivoluzionarie!
Indeed Maffas the male dominance is still out there, no doubt...Keeping the projects for yourself is a good advice but in this world of efficiency it seems that it doesn't work anymore. I recently had a date which seemed more like a speed date that anything else...tons of questions very precise to sort out if the girl is eventually compatible!!!! How can you judge a person in a couple of hours still remqins a mystery for me, but this seems to be the fashion in the group of over 30 years old and more (and not only here but also in France as far as I have been told). At the end of the evening even if the guy finally pays dinner it is defenitely not very romantic...and to my point of view can be somehow "dangerous".
Sounds awful!!!
I knew a guy like that. He was around forty and said he didn't want to loose more time, so he was very direct asking all the important stuff in the first dates.
Where is the romanticism of knowing each other step by step?!?!
But sometimes can be hard when you don't talk about seriuose stuff and only when you are deeply in love you find out that the future plans each other have are so different... Pesadelo!!